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Camping in snow capped Himalayas in Uttarakhand
All links are arranged by their chronologically descending order:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JZG1pp1K1QQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=77omYd0JOeA
18/09/2024
15/09/2024
12/09/2024
- Isn’t dolby atmos same as spatial audio?
- Dolby Atmos is a specific 3D audio technology, but Spatial Audio is a broader concept that includes various 3D audio technologies, such as Dolby Atmos.
- https://convertkit.com/use-cases/bloggers
- Isn’t dolby atmos same as spatial audio?
31/08/2024
19/08/2024
28/07/2024
- Shaolin Kungfu Training
- Shaolin Gurukul
- vc se paise mat lo, individuals se paisa uthao
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kb2cEb20KXE
- https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTCpT7Ryg1g
14/07/2024
10/07/2024
05/07/2024
30/06/2024
- “Autobiography is only to be trusted when it reveals something disgraceful. A man who gives a good account of himself is probably lying, since any life when viewed from the inside is simply a series of defeats.” – George Orwell
- “Nothing can have value without being an object of utility” – Karl Marx
23/06/2024
21/06/2024
13/06/2024
08/06/2024
- Finance discussion with a multi millionaire diamond trader
- Focus on personal brand for people in 20s
- Be FEROCIOUS
- [Zoom transition - DaVince Resolve]
- https://parthkoshti.com/posts/what-its-all-about/
- Finance discussion with a multi millionaire diamond trader
03/06/2024
01/06/2024
20/05/2024
- Da Vinci Resolve
- Video editing software
- Da Vinci Resolve
18/05/2024
- Podcast with Monika Halan - WintWealth
- Monika Halan - India’s first personal finance journalist
- FIRE Corpus target as per Monika Halan
- Corpus = 26 * (Expense at age 60)
- multiplier as 18 if entire corpus for yourself
- multiplier as 35 if entire corpus for the heir
- multiplier as 26 = avg
- Expense at age 60 = Calculate this using your yearly expense and inflation calculator
- Corpus = 26 * (Expense at age 60)
- Things which give you satisfaction in Life (as per lots of studies - claimed by her)
- Money comes at number 3
- Purpose/meaning comes at number 1
- Problem with NPS - 40% annuity with Insurance companies
- Podcast with Monika Halan - WintWealth
12/05/2024
- Bubbles
- Good track to test a new headphone
- Bubbles
10/05/2024
08/05/2024
- IMAXs and PLFs in India - Projection, Size, Capacity etc comparison
- Laser Vs Dual projection
- Prasad’s in Hyderabad
- Previously IMAX, ran celluloid physical projectors
- Largest screen in India, runs PCX (Prasad’s Cinematic eXperience)
- No IMAX in Hyd
- Hyd Govt puts a cap on movie ticket prices, making it uneconomical for theatres to provide a premium experience
- IMAX Dome, Wadala
- IMAXs and PLFs in India - Projection, Size, Capacity etc comparison
07/05/2024
05/05/2024
- Inward remittance tax (gst) + income tax is applied on us stock investments (if selling, not sure about buy). Worth investing if investing if investing >3-4 lakhs
04/05/2024
29/04/2024
27/04/2024
- Calibre - Software to ebook management
- Edit, convert to different formats, sync to devices, etc.
- Calibre - Software to ebook management
25/04/2024
- Vidya Balan Interview - Samdish
- Some good spiritual discussions
- Access consciousness tools
- Helper
- Recommendation - the regime
- Vidya Balan Interview - Samdish
24/04/2024
22/04/2024 * Mark Manson on paradox of self awareness * Self awareness - good for underperformers (under stress/anxiety) , bad for who are already doing good * Therapy - good tool but frameworks like CBT etc. are all same, they are means to get you into a place where your thoughts and feelings can be critically analysed * You can even talk with your friend, no therapy is required * Or even journaling can help (much better way) * Consciousness - Arthur Schopenhauer * Involves two things * Subject - observer * generally, we are the subject of our consciousness * Object - whatever is observed * our thoughts or objects * When object is external, my impulses/thoughts etc - as a whole becomes “I”, this unexamined subject is often referred as the ego * When we turn the focus on ourselves (thoughts and feelings become the object ie internal) we are able to differentiate and put them into perspective * Self Awareness and Self Delusion * False Memory Syndrome * In todays age, folks are more self aware yet mentally not healthy * Self awareness is normalising the pathology and not pathologizing the normal * Advices * stop seeing discomfort or challenges as something to be solved or fixed. * anxiety, anger etc are all feedback - you dont always have to take the feedback * dont fix whats broken * get some physical activity
21/04/2024
18/04/2024
15/04/2024
12/04/2024
08/04/2024
- Fast Fashion
- Fast Fashion is very cheap and trendy
- People buy lots but don’t wear them often
- Poor in quality
- big contributor to pollution -> generates too much waste
- Fast Fashion is very cheap and trendy
- Fast Fashion
07/04/2024
- Game theory tactics
- Sunk Cost Fallacy
- Zero Sum Game: Minimax Strategy
- Mutual Cooperation - not all games are zero sum games
- BJP - Washing Machine
- Adarsh Housing Society Scam - Ashok Chavan
- Narda News <> Bribe - Suvendu Adhikari
- Mulayam Singh Yadav Income tax theft - CBI case 2007
- CBI and ED - chief are appointed by government (directly or indirectly)
- Elections aer costly, after winning they try to recover the money
- Politicians dont have any ideology, they just want to win and earn money and status
- Game theory tactics
06/04/2024
- Game Theory - Strategies that work in real life
- Investing strategy by Capitalmind - Four Quadrant Framework
- Independent thinking
- Independent thinking has long been associated with “Thinking based on first principle”
- Independent thinking need not necessarily mean being correct
- One just needs to be logical. Correctness should not be part of the measurement of independent thinking
- What independent thinking is not: Original thinking.
- Reduction in Emotional Capacity (difficult times) causes unability to think independently
- in turn reduced my ability to focus and diminished my patience
- It was a clear indication that when it comes to a subject that we care deeply about, we all have the ability to think independently and then make a decision that is right for us. To fully unleash this ability, the key is then to expand our attention, focus, and patience to other domains that are (or subconsciously perceived as) less pressing.
- Framework of Patience
- First she would be free of the emotions that come along with such a heated debate.
- Second, without being overwhelmed, she would be emotionally capable of breaking down such a large and complicated question into units of sub-questions through the simple urge to solve a puzzle.
- Self compassion
- if I do not soon find ways to attain equanimity, I would never achieve sustained happiness and success in life
- Meditation
- Being more present minded not only allows me to be more efficient, but it also makes me more patient. I am in much less of a hurry all the time and can think things through more clearly. Fear of being judged and worry of being wrong have both lessened since I now pay less attention to imaginary feelings in the future.
- Journaling
- Time allocation in the day. We are what we do regularly. Thus, monitoring how we spend our time on a daily basis is critical. A review at the end of the day gives us a chance to assess our use of the most limited resource and make changes accordingly;
- Emotional state of the day. Keeping a record of how my emotions fluctuate allows me to catch red flags of a bad emotional trend earlier; and
- Investment related ideas and learnings. In terms of the medium of taking notes, I find it easiest to do my journaling digitally. I have been using the app Day One, which I think does the job very well.
- Elder siblings have to deal with inexperienced parents, they learn a lot in the process.
- If you feel resistance before you begin, it’s usually procrastination and you need to get started.
If you feel resistance after you begin, it’s usually feedback and you need to make adjustments. - Wise words from Bill Miller on Investing
- EvalPlanQual - CockroachDB doesn’t use Postgres’s EvalPlanQual
- Search any text from your browsing history
- SearXNG - Metasearch Engine
- Communication Guide at 37signals
- Postgres Locks explorer
- Other:
- If you want to know what queries to kill, and what’s blocked on what, check out these two very helpful Postgresql wiki pages:
- https://wiki.postgresql.org/wiki/Lock_Monitoring
- https://wiki.postgresql.org/wiki/Lock_dependency_information
- The “Recursive view of blocking” on the second page has been extremely helpful to me. You don’t ever want to need this query but if you do, it’s great. You should follow the page’s recommendation and set it up as a view you can use if shit ever hits the fan.
…although you may want to show all the locks each pid has acquired, instead of the summary the query gives as written, by modifying it to use
instead ofarray_to_string(locks_acquired, E'\n')array_to_string(locks_acquired[1:5] || CASE WHEN array_upper(locks_acquired,1) > 5 THEN '... '||(array_upper(locks_acquired,1) - 5)::text||' more ...' END, E'\n ')
- The “Recursive view of blocking” on the second page has been extremely helpful to me. You don’t ever want to need this query but if you do, it’s great. You should follow the page’s recommendation and set it up as a view you can use if shit ever hits the fan.
…although you may want to show all the locks each pid has acquired, instead of the summary the query gives as written, by modifying it to use
- If you want to know what queries to kill, and what’s blocked on what, check out these two very helpful Postgresql wiki pages:
- Another tool for postgres locks conflict
- Other:
- Tips for when reviewing or editing someone’s writing
05/04/2024
- Era of streaming is over
- Streaming is becoming costly
- Ad free Vs Ad supported
- Serial churners
- subscriber who are not static, they keep subscribing and unsubscribing basis the content or period
- Screen Recording Software with auto focus
- Era of streaming is over
04/04/2024
03/04/2024
- Ladakh’s protest for 6th schedule
- Option Trading - Gambling
- Derivatives
- Futures
- Options
- Derivatives
01/04/2024
- Shogun and Translation
- Translation makes the show exciting, tells us about the culture differences
- Communication is context dependent
- So much of conflict is shaped via translation
- Shogun and Translation
31/03/2024
- There is no beauty without truth and there is no truth without transparency. â Carry Somers
29/03/2024
- Electoral Bonds
- Nitish Rajput - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Om-NseIZTAY
- Think School - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_NTh5l9HJBY
- Soch - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y860YJVuQOo
- Electoral Bonds
28/03/2024
25/03/2024
24/03/2024
23/03/2024
- Every advice a person gives is an advice to their younger self
21/03/2024
- Where are you stuck? - Commentary by Osho
- Identified by Body - Food and Sex are animal desires - lowest
- Identified by Mind
- Many dimensions.
- Can be interested in things you can imagine: Music, Dance, Poetry, Philosophy, Religion, Science
- Aggressive, Logic
- Identified by Heart
- Higher nature, Aesthetic, Sensitive, Alert, Loving,
- Receptive, Love
- Thuriyam - Trascendentalness
- No desires, No future, no past, Lives in the moment, Full lotus open.
- Where are you stuck? - Commentary by Osho
17/03/2024
15/03/2024
14/03/2024
- Case Study of Jio and Disney+ Hotstar merger
- Keystatic
- Content Management
- Lemmy
- Communities like Reddit on Fediverse
- Ibis
- Wikipedia alternative on Fediverse
- https://ibis.wiki/article/Announcing_Ibis,[email protected]
- blog inspiration
- Figma database scaling story
- HTTP2 and HTTP3 explained
- Myers diff algorithm
- OpenAI Assistant’s API supports streaming
- Having the movie open with a civilian begging Batman not to hurt him and having it end with a girl afraid to let go of him is such a great parallel
- Nikhil Kamath <> Ritesh Podcast
- Ritesh talks about Uday Kotak
- 3 things lacking in today’s generation compared with Uday Kotak;s
- Delayed Gratification
- No Social pressure
- Sense of Humility
12/03/2024
- You learn fast from people who are way different from you
- All about Forgiveness
- Tech Service Provider - inspiration
- Google;s threat model for post-quantum cryptography
11/03/2024
- Monte-Carlo Graph Search
- Best Essay by Paul Graham
- Title is “Best Essay”
- Memchess
- Tool to learn most popular chess openings and their variations
- DBeaver
- OSS database tool and sql client (supports db having JDBC driver)
- LlamaGym
- Fine-tune LLM agents with online reinforcement learning
- Numbers programmers should know
- SSO Tax
- List of vendors that treat single sign-on as a luxury feature, not a core security requirement
- saml auth is going to be an enterprise feature, maintainer rejects open id support for hoppscotch
10/03/2024
- Blip Sort
- Branchless Lomuto in Pattern-Defeating Quicksort (Blipsort)
- Bruno
- Opensource ide for exploring and testing APIs
- Pingora
- HTTP proxy built by Cloudflare using Rust
- Written to replace Nginx, because of scale and performance limitations
- article - why built Pingora
- Blip Sort
07/03/2024
- Rich Indians
- India-1 (Top 1%), India-2 (Top 10%) are thriving, but India-3 (Rest) is not
- Sale of Luxury products is increasing but sale of mass products is not
- Most businesses are targeting India-2, ie top 10% earning capacity consumers
- Power Law
- Ecommerce is mostly driven from few pincodes
- Shark Tank businesses are targeting India-1, ie Top 1%
- These Top 1% can easily be equal to population of a European country, hence many international luxury brands are trying to enter India market
- Old Money, New Money (from Startup World)
- Income Tax Section 54F - People buy luxury apartments (limit is one) to save long term capital gain tax (later gov capped it to 10Cr)
- Business owners add their family members to Cap Table so that they can buy multiple properties
- Rise of Nouveau Rich - French word for people who have recently become rich and want to show off their money
- India-1 (Top 1%), India-2 (Top 10%) are thriving, but India-3 (Rest) is not
- Why Dune was considered unadaptable
- terminology
- most dialogue are internal dialogues
- Add to that, it is written with third-person perspective omniscient. So it’s like,you’re in someone’s head in this sentence and then suddenly you’re in somebody else’s head in the next sentence.
- ketoconazole 2%
- Rich Indians
06/03/2024
- You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. The point is whatever is inside the cup, is what will spill out. Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which will happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It’s easy to fake it, until you get rattled. So, we have to ask ourselves, “What’s in my cup?” When life gets tough, what spills out? Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility? Or does anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions come out? You choose! Today let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, giveness, joy, words of affirmation, kindness, gentleness and love for others.
- We project our insecurities onto others
- The adults will tell you to stop looking for the spark. To settle for stability and companionship. But I don’t think I can sit next to someone on the dinner table for the rest of my life talking only about my day. There needs to be unsaid communication. The sarcasm that doesn’t go unnoticed. The teasing that doesn’t stop. That chemistry that you can’t find from just a good resume.
- Key to having a good conversation: endless q-n-a mixed with jokes and stories
- Are you successful?
- It depends on the context. Success is not a state but a transition so you need a context.
- Most of the population are reacting to life, they are not living at all, are you?
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Seven_Basic_Plots
- https://www.headwaycapital.com/blog/storytelling-improve-presentations/
- Therapy in India
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Streisand_effect
- Unintended consequence of attempts to hide, remove, or censor information, where the effort instead backfires by increasing public awareness of the information
- Dialectics of life: every time when we breathe for life we die a little
- Corelation != Causation
- The Tomato Explanation:
- Strength is how hard you can throw a tomato
- Dexterity is the ability to cut a tomato without cutting yourself
- Constitution is being able to eat a rotten tomato
- Intelligence is knowing that a tomato is a fruit
- While wisdom is knowing not put the tomato in a fruit salad
- Charisma is the ability to sell a tomato-based fruit salad
- And as a bonus, luck is your ability to find a tomato in a field of potatoes
- ELI5: Why wonât microwaving spoiled food make it safe to eat?
Yes, but eating some bacteria isn’t what hurts you. Your stomach handles bacteria every day, surfaces are covered with them. However, when bacteria and fungi have been growing for a while on food, they’ve eaten some of it and, well, pooped. The toxins they release after they eat are designed to kill things, like other microbes looking to “share” the food that the current diners have found.
Penicillin is the poop of the Penicillium chrysogenum bacteria fungus, released to keep others from sharing the bread P.C. is living on. (Fun bonus fact, a relatives Penicillium roqueforti and Penicillium camemberti are used because we like the flavor their poop gives cheese.)
Enough microwaves to destroy these toxin molecules would virtually incinerate your food.
- Fitness routine
- Starting weight: 63kg/139lbs Weight now: 85kg/187lbs
- Height: 186 cm/6'1
- Age: 19
- Routine:
- Monday (Pull) Bench 7-6-5-4-3-2-2 Deadlifts 7-6-5-4-3-2-2 Weighted pullups 4x8+ Cable rows 3x12+ Face pulls 3x15+ Hammer curls 3x12+ Ez bar curls 3x10+
- Tuesday (Push) Overhead Press 5-3-1+, 5x5 Shoulder press 1x15+, 1x10+, 1x6+, 1x15+ Close grip bench 3x8+ Peck deck 1x20+, 1x15+, 1x10+ Lateral raises 5x15+ Triceps pushdowns 3x12+ Front raises 3x15+
- Wednesday (Legs) Squats 7-6-5-4-3-2-2 Lunges 3x10+ Leg press 3x15+ Leg curls 3x10+ Calf raises 5x10+
- Thursday(Pull) Barbell rows 1x17+, 1x10+, 1x6+, 1x15+ Lat pulldowns 3x8+ Pullups 3x12+ Cable rows 3x12+ Face pulls 3x15+ Hammer curls 3x12+ Ez bar curls 3x10+
- Friday (Push) ATG squat 1 heavy single Bench 6-5-5-4-3-2-1 Incline dumbell bench 4x10+ Shoulder press 3x12+ Peck deck 1x20+, 1x15+, 1x10+ Lateral raises 5x20 Triceps pushdowns 3x12+ Skullcrushers 3x10+
- Saturday (Legs) Squats 6-5-5-4-3-2-1 RDL’s 1x20 ish, 1x15 ish, 1x10 ish Front squats 3x10+ Hamstring curls 3x10+ Calf raises 5x15+
- Diet routine: Tried to eat at least 3500 calories every day, aswell as getting around 150g protein/day, other than that, not
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lipstick_effect
- theory that when facing an economic crisis consumers will be more willing to buy less costly luxury goods
- instead of buying expensive purses and fur coats, for example, people will buy expensive cosmetics, such as high-end brands of lipstick
- https://growth.design/
- Brilliant case studies on UX
- Book Suggestion: Neil Postman’s “Amusing Ourselves to Death”, Album Suggestion: Arctic Monkey’s album “Tranquility Base Hotel & Casino”
- Five most important controllable factors from the Pardot experience
- Employees-First â Our focus on culture was maniacal. Employees came before customers and all other constituents. Everything we did internally was focused on our core values of positive, self-starting, and supportive. The ultimate reason we succeeded was because of our people.
- In the Path of Revenue â Our product unequivocally helped our customers make more money. We showed return on investment. We showed value. Our product helped turn marketing from a fuzzy role to a metrics-driven role.
- Must-Have Product â Our product was the core of the majority of the B2B marketing functions. If you ripped it out, many of the marketing channels stopped working (email, lead forms, etc.). It was not a nice-to-have.
- Complementary Co-Founders â Adam and I are very different yet complemented each other incredibly well. We knew our strengths and weaknesses and built an awesome organization.
- Focused Solution â Our product delivered the most value with the best experience possible at the $1,000/month price point. We were focused on providing the most bang-for-your-buck in the SMB market, and we executed well. This was especially important as our market was so noisy.
- You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee? You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. The point is whatever is inside the cup, is what will spill out. Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which will happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It’s easy to fake it, until you get rattled. So, we have to ask ourselves, “What’s in my cup?” When life gets tough, what spills out? Joy, gratefulness, peace and humility? Or does anger, bitterness, harsh words and reactions come out? You choose! Today let’s work towards filling our cups with gratitude, giveness, joy, words of affirmation, kindness, gentleness and love for others.
03/03/2024
- Why do women have longer hair than men in almost every society
- Interesting comments:
- I have noticed that societies in which long hair isn’t gendered tend to be societies in which male pattern baldness isn’t as prevalent, particularly in Native American, Pacific Islander, and Aboriginal Australian cultures.
Shorter/less ornate hair for men might be a cultural mechanism for normalizing something they are expecting to go through at some point in their lives. - It is interesting how many ‘high status’ hair cuts or even head wear either normalize or hide male pattern baldness. From the Jewish skull cap, to the tenser hair cut of monks, across to samurai styles to a laurel wreath that hides male pattern baldness, to ancient Egyptians shaving all their hair but having a ‘youth lock’ remaining that would also be shaved on adulthood.
- I have noticed that societies in which long hair isn’t gendered tend to be societies in which male pattern baldness isn’t as prevalent, particularly in Native American, Pacific Islander, and Aboriginal Australian cultures.
- Interesting comments:
- Why do women have longer hair than men in almost every society
27/02/2024
26/02/2024
- Compare cost of living of any city
- Alternatives for Docker Desktop
12/02/2024
- 5 most used architecture patterns
- Layered architecture
- Presentation Layer
- Business Layer
- Persistence Layer
- Database Layer
- Event Driven
- CQRS
- Microkernel * Plugins
- Microservices
- Monolithic Architecture
- Layered architecture
- How to Crack Any System Design Interview
- Purpose is to assess your ability to
- Translate an ambiguous problem statement into concrete technical requirements
- Craft an architecture and design that satisfies those requirements
- Articulate and defend your design decisions throughout the discussion
- There is no correct solution, goal is to
- demonstrate your technical expertise,
- your approach to problem solving,
- your sills to communicate effectively
- Understand
- Features
- NFR - Non Functional Requirements
- Scalability
- Technical Constraints
- Important Numbers
- Use Cases
- Scoping
- Purpose is to assess your ability to
- Deployment Strategies
- Big Bang Deployment
- Rolling Deployment
- Blue Green Deployment
- Canary Deployment
- Feature Flags Deployment
- 5 most used architecture patterns
11/02/2024
- How Europe lost Hollywood
- Germany used to be film capital in world
- First commercial movie theatre opened in Paris 1895
- France and Italy dominated early on
- California has vast amount of different landscapes and perfect weather conditions (more sun, more lighting)
- Tech Interview Handbook
- How Europe lost Hollywood
10/02/2024
- Huberman podcast - science of love, desire, attachment
- men find women’s odour more attractive and women find men more attractive - in pre ovulatory phase of women’s menstrual cycle
- Jewelbox - Lab grown diamonds
- Startup at Shark Tank Season 3
- Lab grown diamonds are diamonds but artificially made
- Codeium
- Alternate to Github Copilot, claims to be better
- Gemini - Google Bard’s next version
- Alternate to Chatgpt
- Acko <> Ola Insurance - Golden Peacock Award - old news
- Huberman podcast - science of love, desire, attachment
09/02/2024
- what attracts men to women
- Her looks catch my attention, her personality is what gets me to stay
- Second to looks is femininity. Do you let a man be a man, take the lead and play his natural role. For me personally nothing turns me off faster than a masculine, loud, potty mouth woman. Actually there is one more thingâŚbeing really into materialistic shit. In the great words or Tyler Durden âthe things you own end up owning youâ.
- Automate boring parts of your job using robotic process automation (RPA)
- Men Clothing Brand - XY XX
- Secrets of successful relationship
- Pick someone you feel profoundly grateful ever decided to look your way. Start from a sense that you are the lucky one, and they are superior, truth is irrelevant.
- Make sure you fancy them intimately.
- Allow yourselves both to admit from an early stage that you are âmadâ, heavily distorted by your past, unable to understand yourseleves.
- Make apology the most regular of occurrences.
- Remove all pride from your character.
- Regularly explore how you have disappointed one another. Let them sometimes hate you, and you them.
- Never describe them categorically as this or that. (i.e. âI feel like youâre being unfairâ, not âYouâre being unfairâ)
- Get good at sensing the fear beneath your angry moods, then express the fear gently rather than acting out the anger.
- Reduce expectations of perfection.
- Accept you will have crushes on others.
- If there are children, recognize that love will suffer hugely.
- Become the sort of person who has no embarrassment about being âneedyâ.
- Read up about attachment theory.
- Stop being defensive.
- Accept that they canât save you from your own disturbances.
- Donât expect everything from love.
- Be very prepared (though reluctant) to leave.
- what attracts men to women
06/02/2024
- Become a more interesting person
- There is a large variance in how much we feel we have to say about ourselves depending on who we are talking to. Some people make us feel boring, while others draw out our stories and observations.
- This happens because our unconscious minds are continuously evaluating how much the other person understands, appreciates, and can accept about what we are saying. Based on this, we conclude how much of ourselves we can safely reveal.
- People who make us feel we have a lot to say open many rooms in their own minds. They have explored complex, sad, dark, or potentially shameful parts of themselves. By being at ease with these things internally, they signal they will be at ease hearing about those things from others as well.
- We can become more interesting to others by traveling widely within our own psyches, opening doors to parts of ourselves we usually keep hidden. This shows others we will be a safe, receptive audience for their observations and stories too.
- By saying a lot to ourselves internally, we ready ourselves to have much to say in conversation with others. Self-examination builds capacity for intimacy.
- Become a more interesting person
04/02/2024
02/02/2024
- Story of Adani
- Caffeine enslaved the world
- Caffeine in soft drinks, energy drinks, everywhere
- Disney hotstar captures one billion emojis
20/01/2024
14/01/2024
- Making conversation exciting
- The false completion technique
- Accept bids for connection (double downs on the joke + laugh)
- Add touch during conversational highpoints
- Friendly teasing (Use teases that are obviously not true, tease yourself too)
- Act out your characters (While telling a story)
- Pause when you hear laughter (When telling a story)
- Take a 3 second punchline joke (When telling a story)
- Have a go to story to tell everyone
- Paradox fo being nice
- Making conversation exciting
12/01/2024
- How do you split bills
- Prenups are not valid in India
06/01/2024
- Husn by Anuv Jain - lyrics breakdown
- what a song
- fan vs bhakt - fan culture
- not harmful to pop knuckles but the position when popping knuckles is harmful
- blr metros
- Naval on the knowledge project
If you’re like me, you’re probably afraid of commitment for fear of losing your freedom. The freedom of doing anything, of going anywhere, of being with anyone.
In one simple sentence he changed everything I thought I knew. Here’s the quote:
I would say that the biggest such change was when I was younger, I really, really valued freedom. Freedom was one of my core, core values. Ironically, it still is. Itâs probably one of my top three values, but itâs a different definition of freedom. My old definition was freedom to, freedom to do anything I want. Freedom to do whatever I feel like, whenever I feel like. Now I would say that the freedom that Iâm looking for is internal freedom. Itâs freedom from. Itâs freedom from reaction. Itâs freedom from feeling angry. Itâs freedom from being sad. Itâs freedom from being forced to do things. Iâm looking for freedom from internally and externally, whereas before I was looking for freedom to.
- Husn by Anuv Jain - lyrics breakdown
02/01/2024